Joan Stone Hayden
October 16, 1936 – April 11, 2021

The Memorial Service will be held at a time to be determined.
Joan Frances Stone Hayden died on Sunday, April 11, 2021 in Solomons, Maryland.
Joan was born on October 16, 1936, in Washington, D.C.; her parents were Francis
Aubrey Stone and Thelma Fletcher Stone. She was an only child. She spent her
girlhood in the District and later in St. Mary’s County, where her father’s family had
deep roots. She graduated from St. Mary’s Academy in 1954. She graduated from
Strayer College in 1955.
In 1956 she married Joseph Neal Hayden, Jr., of Lexington Park, Maryland. They
began their married life in Hyattsville and Seat Pleasant. They moved to Clinton in
1963 and raised five sons and were blessed with many friends. Joan was an active
member of St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church, volunteering with multiple
ministries.
Joan worked for the U.S. Census Bureau for many years, retiring in 1993. In 1986
Joan and Joe moved to Huntingtown, and became founding parishioners at Jesus the
Divine Word parish. Joan was active in the Altar Guild and other parish ministries.
She also volunteered with Meals on Wheels. Joan was a shining example of quiet
service, inspiring her children and grandchildren to live faithfully and to serve
others.
Joan led a happy and rich life, full of friends and family. She was predeceased by her
husband Joe. She is survived by five sons and daughters-in-law: Don and Donna of
Hampton, Virginia; Mark and Phyllis of Severna Park; Jeff and Patti of Ellicott City;
Brian and Kelly of Lusby; and Randy and Kathy of Winston-Salem, North Carolina.
Her survivors include sixteen grandchildren and their spouses, and twenty
great-grandchildren. She is also survived by her large extended family and her
numerous friends.
Joan was a loving mother and grandmother, and her children and grandchildren will
forever treasure her wisdom and kindness in all she did. She had a deep, enduring
faith. You can honor her memory by hugging your loved ones, saying a prayer, and
performing an act of charity for another person. We will forever miss Joan, our
Mom, our Mommom.
Her final year of life was made difficult by the restrictions of the COVID pandemic.
We are grateful to the health care professionals who cared for her and protected her.
We are thankful that many accommodations were made to allow us to be with her in
her final illness.
A Memorial service will be held on Friday July 23, 2021, 1 PM At Our Lady Star of the Sea Catholic Church, Solomons, MD. If you wish,
memorial donations may be made to: Meals on Wheels, Our Lady Star of the Sea
Church and School (Solomons), or to the charity of your choice.
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- Memorial Service
Friday, July 23, 2021
1 PM
Interment
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Dear Family:
I only knew your mom, and dad, through Jesus the Devine Word Church.
Your mom was one of the most gentle, kind and loving woman I ever met. I admired her so much for her Christianity and pure love of our Lord. May she Rest In Peace. God bless!
Elaine Cartwright
Ms Haydens Family , I am so honored to have know your mom she was such a beautiful ,soft spoken , and the sweetest lady , and one thing for sure she loved her family , and our Lord Jesus Oh and choc chip cookies she will truly be missed her Memories well be Treasured forever in your hearts Linda Scott ( worked at the Hermitage )
Hayden Family – I am so sad to hear of your mom’s passing – she was a real inspiration to me in so many ways. We carpooled for many years from both Clinton and Huntington. I always enjoyed her talking about stuffing a ham for the holidays; and I especially loved hearing about all of you coming for Christmas (dogs and all), and not leaving til all the food was gone! 😉 She was a special lady indeed and will be missed by many.
Love and sympathy,
Joan Hill
We are so sorry about the loss of your dear mother. She is indeed a very special lady and will be missed. My mom’s greatest memories were carpooling to the Census Bureau and sharing their cooking and baking fun during the holidays. Please know that we are keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Angelo and Traci (Brenner) Cimini and Ellie Brenner
Carole Scarff Klapper and daughter, Lauren Klapper King January 10, 2022; 4;30pm
Hello Brian, I am Carole (Julia Scarff’s daughter (Julia was Aunt Thelma’s sister) and Lauren is my daughter. Therefore, Joan was my cousin. We had limited correspondence over the years but did keep in touch. After my last correspondence to Joan, I did not hear from her for almost 2 years. I don’t know why I did not think about googling her name then. A few days ago, it was done, and I learned of her passing. Our heartfelt sympathy to you, Brian, and all the Hayden Family.
I’m sure she will be missed. She was so sweet and had the most quiet, gentle personality of anyone we knew. Would you please email me (Carole) and let me know about her illness; I would appreciate it very much.
With Sympathy, Carole
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Dear Family:
I only knew your mom, and dad, through Jesus the Devine Word Church.
Your mom was one of the most gentle, kind and loving woman I ever met. I admired her so much for her Christianity and pure love of our Lord. May she Rest In Peace. God bless!
Elaine Cartwright
Thank you so much. The JDW community was so special to her and so much a part of her life (Joe’s as well). We miss her.
Ms Haydens Family , I am so honored to have know your mom she was such a beautiful ,soft spoken , and the sweetest lady , and one thing for sure she loved her family , and our Lord Jesus Oh and choc chip cookies she will truly be missed her Memories well be Treasured forever in your hearts Linda Scott ( worked at the Hermitage )
Thank you so much……yes yes she loved the chocolate chip cookies
So sorry for your loss. Your mom was the sweetest lady. Thoughts and prayers to all of you.
Susie Worthington Boyd & George Boyd
Thank you so much for you kind thoughts and prayers. We do miss her.
Hayden Family – I am so sad to hear of your mom’s passing – she was a real inspiration to me in so many ways. We carpooled for many years from both Clinton and Huntington. I always enjoyed her talking about stuffing a ham for the holidays; and I especially loved hearing about all of you coming for Christmas (dogs and all), and not leaving til all the food was gone! 😉 She was a special lady indeed and will be missed by many.
Love and sympathy,
Joan Hill
So nice to hear from you Mrs. Hill. Thanks for the very nice thoughts. Hope you are enjoying Florida. I love it down there.
We are so sorry about the loss of your dear mother. She is indeed a very special lady and will be missed. My mom’s greatest memories were carpooling to the Census Bureau and sharing their cooking and baking fun during the holidays. Please know that we are keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Angelo and Traci (Brenner) Cimini and Ellie Brenner
Carole Scarff Klapper and daughter, Lauren Klapper King January 10, 2022; 4;30pm
Hello Brian, I am Carole (Julia Scarff’s daughter (Julia was Aunt Thelma’s sister) and Lauren is my daughter. Therefore, Joan was my cousin. We had limited correspondence over the years but did keep in touch. After my last correspondence to Joan, I did not hear from her for almost 2 years. I don’t know why I did not think about googling her name then. A few days ago, it was done, and I learned of her passing. Our heartfelt sympathy to you, Brian, and all the Hayden Family.
I’m sure she will be missed. She was so sweet and had the most quiet, gentle personality of anyone we knew. Would you please email me (Carole) and let me know about her illness; I would appreciate it very much.
With Sympathy, Carole