Thomas Allan Stakem
May 5, 1967- October 31, 2021
Thomas Allan Stakem, 54, of North Beach, MD, passed away suddenly on October 31, 2021, at home.
Thomas was born May 5, 1967 in Washington, DC. He was the son of Joan Stakem and the late John Patrick Stakem, Sr., he grew up in Suitland, MD, and attended Suitland High School.
Tom was an avid skateboarder from an early age, and one of his current passions was playing his guitar and making music; he was also proud of his extensive album collection. He attended art school and created beautiful stained-glass windows for family and friends. Tom’s Irish heritage shone through in his gift of gab; he was quick to make a joke, and he helped bring friends and family together. In his spare time, Thomas loved to watch old westerns, play chess, and spend time at his best friend Rick’s house watching football and NASCAR.
Tom married the love of his life, Denise Minnick, on September 9th, 1995, and they moved to North Beach from Clinton in 1995. Thomas and Denise were high-school sweethearts and knew each other for almost 40 years.
Thomas worked as a courier for over 10 years in the Washington, DC, Virginia, and Maryland area before starting his career in the car wash industry. He worked in sales as well as a car wash technician for WashTech for 14 years. For the past 10 years, Thomas was self-employed as a consultant and a car wash technician in the car wash industry, primarily for Billy’s Car Wash in Bladensburg, MD, and Billy’s Auto Laundry in Fort Washington, MD.
He is survived by his wife, Denise, his mother, Joan, and siblings: John Patrick (Suzie), Christopher (Marianne), Mary (Steve), Kathy (Troy), Tim (Cari), and Stephen, and mother-in-law Marjorie, sisters-in-law Diane, Debra, and brothers-in-law Glenn, Mike, and Barry, and many nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by his father, John Patrick Stakem, Sr.
Visitation
Sunday, November 7, 2021
1:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Services
- Funeral Service
Monday, November 8, 2021
11:00 AM
Contributions
Condolences
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4 Nov 2021
7:00pm
I’m so sorry Denise hugs and prayers cuz
City
Laurel
State
MD
5 Nov 2021
9:22am
My deepest condolences to you and the family. May god hold him in his loving arms, RIP my friend 🙏❤️
City
Suitland
State
MD
5 Nov 2021
8:02pm
Dear Stakem family, so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. May he rest in peace. Amen 🙏
City
Prince Frederick
State
MD
6 Nov 2021
5:57pm
Denise, so sorry to hear about Thomas. Sending prayers and love to you and your family. Miss you and love you, Kay
City
Jacksonville
State
Florida
6 Nov 2021
11:58pm
Blessings to our dear friends: Denise, Mrs. Stakem, John, Chris, Mary, Kathy, Tim, & Steve. Tommy will be missed. May he Rest In Peace! Warmly, Mary Agnes, Mary Anne & Mark, Barbara & Steve, Rose Mary, Michael, Joe & Colleen, Maureen & Chris, Jim & Salli, Steve & Jodi, & Lawrence Klein
City
Baltimore
State
MD
7 Nov 2021
6:14am
We are so very sorry to hear the sudden passing of brother Thomas, Denise. If Kim, myself, or both were ever outside of our old house on 4th Street, brother Thomas never failed to stop and chat about something positive, unless he was late getting home to see you, which was very rare 🙃. But even then, he took the time to slow down, roll down his window and yell, “gotta get home to see the wife, she’s waiting on me”. Then he would waive, smile and scoot on home to you 🙂. He will surely be missed.
Please do not hesitate to let us know if there’s anything you may need or if we can help in anyway. Prayers said and being sent 🙏.
Rest In Peace, brother T………………
City
Mechanicsville
State
Maryland
7 Nov 2021
10:12am
We offer our sincere and deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband, Tom. The world is not quite as bright We will always carry the memory of him and your great love story. Please know that we are here for you for any need you may have.
City
Greeneville
State
Tennessee
7 Nov 2021
4:30pm
My sincere condolences. May he rest in peace! My prayers are with.
City
Chesapeake Beach
State
Md
7 Nov 2021
10:14pm
Dear Stakem family and friends, I’m sorry to hear that my buddy, friend and coworker has passed. He will be greatly missed, I will keep you in my prayers and pray for strength and healing during this time. Tom I miss you, it seems like yesterday we were laughing, joking and eating pizza, and I thank your wife for sharing you with us at Billy’s Car Wash. God Bless.
City
Camp springs
State
Md
8 Nov 2021
6:28am
Clint & I send our deepest condolences to you, Denise and to Tommy’s family and friends. We are so sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Clint and Jill Myers
City
Melbourne Beach
State
MD
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I’m so sorry Denise hugs and prayers cuz
My deepest condolences to you and the family. May god hold him in his loving arms, RIP my friend 🙏❤️
Dear Stakem family, so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. May he rest in peace. Amen 🙏
Denise, so sorry to hear about Thomas. Sending prayers and love to you and your family. Miss you and love you, Kay
Blessings to our dear friends: Denise, Mrs. Stakem, John, Chris, Mary, Kathy, Tim, & Steve. Tommy will be missed. May he Rest In Peace! Warmly, Mary Agnes, Mary Anne & Mark, Barbara & Steve, Rose Mary, Michael, Joe & Colleen, Maureen & Chris, Jim & Salli, Steve & Jodi, & Lawrence Klein
We are so very sorry to hear the sudden passing of brother Thomas, Denise. If Kim, myself, or both were ever outside of our old house on 4th Street, brother Thomas never failed to stop and chat about something positive, unless he was late getting home to see you, which was very rare 🙃. But even then, he took the time to slow down, roll down his window and yell, “gotta get home to see the wife, she’s waiting on me”. Then he would waive, smile and scoot on home to you 🙂. He will surely be missed.
Please do not hesitate to let us know if there’s anything you may need or if we can help in anyway. Prayers said and being sent 🙏.
Rest In Peace, brother T………………
We offer our sincere and deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband, Tom. The world is not quite as bright We will always carry the memory of him and your great love story. Please know that we are here for you for any need you may have.
My sincere condolences. May he rest in peace! My prayers are with.
Dear Stakem family and friends, I’m sorry to hear that my buddy, friend and coworker has passed. He will be greatly missed, I will keep you in my prayers and pray for strength and healing during this time. Tom I miss you, it seems like yesterday we were laughing, joking and eating pizza, and I thank your wife for sharing you with us at Billy’s Car Wash. God Bless.
Clint & I send our deepest condolences to you, Denise and to Tommy’s family and friends. We are so sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Clint and Jill Myers